Was I back stabbed or am I the person who is wrong.. family relationship help?
Well, I’m 20 y/o male going to a College part-time. I live at home with my parents, my cousin and older bro, Age 19 and 24 respectively. Recently there’s been a few changes. About a few months ago my oldest bro age 28 moved out of the house because his wife got into a fight with my other bros GF.
To make a long story short. my 24y/o bros GF was known to be a neighborhood hoe.
My parents didnt seem to care because she currently lives in our house hold.
I try not to talk to my bro and I don’t even say a word to his GF.
On the other hand me and my 19y/o cousin use to get along great until he moved in. He seems to be sighing with my 24 y/o bro since he is a bit older and drinks and goes out.
Yet the guy (my bro) has never worked a day in his life and in fact never graduated HS. And my mom supports his unofficial online jersey business.
Tonight I heard them drinking in the kitchen and they (My bro his GF and cousin) though I was sleeping. I heard my bro say, "I have an opportunity to leave and move into an apartment free of charge as long as I do maintenance around the complex. and I know if I go James (ME) wont even come see me but oh well screw me screw you he said.
In fact he is right, I wouldn’t visit him or even go looking for him. He has always bee against me ever since I could recall as a child. Any woo then I heard my cousin say, " Yeah he hasn’t experienced life or had a real job and done things on his own, he acts like he knows what hes talking about.
Its true, I have never really had an official job with a bi-weekly paycheck and I am a bit shy and reserved but, If I want something I don’t hesitate to go after it. In my house I am the only one with a 40"lcd tv a PS3 matching bed, tv and dresser set. a couch and beautiful hard wood flooring my Itouch, Iphone and netbook.
I don’t mean to brag but, how did I get all of this? Not from mommy or daddy, I did side jobs and paid for the things I have; I put in the flooring I painted the room I did it all!!!
I have a car and I have given rides to the lazy bum I call a brother since he has a DUI.
At home my parents treat me like a step child and I am neglected. I would be wrong to say it doesn’t bother me but, I am glad sometimes for a split second because it has made me a tougher person.
I have always been a giver and a caring person to my family… My bro needs a ride from a bar, my cousin needs a ride, clothes, money for food, baby sitting, emotional help.
My dad needs help with this or that, my mom wants this done. I help. I’m a helper, I’ve always wanted to help people….I give money to the poor, I help people in need, I’m the nice guy that finishes last.
I pray to god to guide me yet, I feel like I receive no answer, but deep down In side I can’t give up hope… my conscious won’t let me my faith won’t let me. I am not saying I’m prefect nor the best person in the world but, I’m tried of being a victim…
I don’t drink or smoke I go to school and I want to be successful, I have learned somethings from my bros mistake but I can only thank god and know one else.
I know this is life and many young adults have emotional problems or family problems.
I just don’t know what to do any more?… Lately I’ve just been feeling tired and uninspired.
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You sound like you have your head on right. Unfortuanelty in this world sometimes the quiet hard working ones get pushed aside. It is unfortunate that your mom seems to side with him, as a mom I would be much prouder of my son who stayed in school, wants to suceed and is generous with his time and money-often to people who don’t deserve it. There are 2 kinds of people in this world, workers and takers…it seems as though your brother has learned to play everyone, even your parents. It is frustrating to say the least, and your cousin is falling under the same delusion as your brother if he thinks it cool to be a handyman at a hotel for the rest of his life. Finish your studies, make something of yourself and when you come to visit in your nice car, and your sucessful career, they will see who the real success was. Good luck and hang in there